Coaching & Mentoring Resources

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We have a range of resources
to support our
coaching & mentoring services.

We add new content from time to time.

These resources are available to our registered clients only and depend on their type of registration.

Personal Development

One enlightening way to view organisations (including teams) is as a ‘confluence of family systems‘. Viewed this way, and with an understanding of the invisible dynamics at play in a family system, it provides a reality check for any expectation we may have that an organisation or team will be efficient and effective or will respond to imposed change favourably. Organisational systems have more invisible dynamics than a family system and they are rarely, if ever, talked about and worked on. At best, probably, we can acknowledge their existence.

Understanding organisational systems involves understanding people which means understanding the invisible dynamics in families. Our family is the only place where we truly belong (even if we don’t like it or don’t believe we belong). The belonging we seek in organisations (employers, clubs etc) is merely transitory; we can cease to belong by our own will or by others’.

If we do not feel we fully belong in our family of origin, then this is what we need to work on if we are to experience success and contentment elsewhere in life.

What follows are clusters of content relating to working on yourself and your relationships with others, whether at work or in life in general.

Making and delivering on your personal commitments

Making a commitment to change is easy, follow-though is what delivers the change.

Holding yourself accountable – working with an ‘accountability partner’ or a coach [Available to unregistered clients]

To determine your personal commitments, the following resources will help. Don’t expect to be able to work through it all at once. It takes time and reflection to absorb it. Although the material is presented sequentially, you are unlikely to work through it sequentially. Allow yourself to be drawn into areas that seem relevant at any given time. You may need to revisit some areas.

Your journey may be challenging and at times uncomfortable but it is worth it. The journey starts with you accepting responsibility for your steps and progress. No-one else can do this for you, they can only accompany you and guide you when the path appears rocky or indistinct.

Becoming a more skilful version of yourself

The key to success in life is to be yourself and not to try to be someone else. Learn from others to be a more skilful version yourself. This cluster of articles explores how to do this looking through different ‘lenses’.

Who am I? – a simple reflective exercise to find the authentic you

Why do I feel I’m the ‘odd one’ in my family? – exploring a common and possible cause

Using our emotions as a signal – a different view of Emotional intelligence

‘Dialing down’ insecurities and self-limiting beliefs

Finding inner peace and hidden resources – drawing on the generations that came before you (includes link to Family Constellations)

Understanding your relationship with money

Wellbeing

This is a sequence of related articles that, together, focus on building and sustaining one’s wellbeing. (Professional coaches looking for ‘train-the-trainer’ material, jump here.)

Improving your resilience – getting the basic ‘building blocks’ in place

Managing your energy levels to avoid ‘burn out’

Rediscovering lost boundaries between work and other priorities in life – using our proprietary Wellbeing Constellation

A necessary part of ensuring one’s wellbeing, particularly in the workplace, involves being able to have difficult conversations.

Difficult Conversations

Much of the difficulty associated with a conversation that’s expected to be uncomfortable is the anticipation of the meeting rather than the conversation itself. This cluster of articles explains why that is and what can be done about it.

De-stressing: Learning to love ‘grey’ – negotiations at the boundary

Finding and drawing on the source of your personal courage – you have it, somewhere

Handling difficult conversations confidently – simple steps in preparation

Having a ‘difficult conversation’ is even more challenging if the relationship is viewed as ‘difficult’. Before beginning the conversation, it’s important to understand why the relationship appears to be challenging and to at least begin to address the causes.

Difficult Relationships

We can improve ‘difficult’ relationships if we work on ourselves rather than trying to ‘fix’ the other person. As we change, our attitude towards the other person, their attitude towards us will evolve for the better too. We don’t have to like everyone but we can learn to respect, appreciate and accept others just as they are.

Learning not to judge others – something that usually starts with us judging a parent

Learning to appreciate the people who annoy us the most!


Developing Others

Coaching, Mentoring and Feedback

Often confused, these three activities are extremely different. Coaching, for example, does not involve providing feedback!

Coaching, Mentoring and Feedback – important differences

Facilitating Meetings

Meetings, whether large or small, tend to be extra-ordinarily ineffective and inefficient. Organisations invest a considerable amount of time and money in making other parts of their operations more productive but rarely their meetings. We encourage you to learn how to better facilitate meetings!

Unlocking brilliance in meetings – making meetings efficient, effective and engaging

Handling the invisible dynamics in teams and groups

Making ‘strategy away-days’ effective

We have also written various articles relating to organisations and how to better understand them as systems. You can find these articles here: Brilliant thoughts [Available to unregistered clients]


Building your business

(for coaches and consultants)

Developing your personal credibility (Management Consultants and Coaches/Facilitators)

Building a consulting practice (for Management Consultants)

Facilitating Wellbeing: A systemic constellations approach (for Coaches/Facilitators)


For more information or support during your life’s journey, please contact Mike Price at Brilliance Unlocked Ltd.


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